Big SIS

Who among you have an eldest sister? I do. And most of my friends does.

After living the years of my life, I came to realise some facts about them. And these are significant points which inspires me to write this Note about them:

First, in the younger years, these Big SIS are not appreciated by her siblings. Most big Sis are "contrabida" at home, someone who always makes taray and away those pasaway. Someone who always been perfect and see the imperfection of the other people at home. Someone who had been an achiever and expects the same from her youngsters. Someone who would wake you up early in the morning and tell you how lazy you are and someone who would yell at you at night so you could sleep early. Someone who is a Fun Buster, a disciplinarian, a Role Model. Someone we used to hate because we are compared to them. Someone who always points out money being spent for nothing, while for you it was everything.

Latter part in life, these Big SIS will not leave you until you do the right thing, which is kinda annoying for younger siblings. She would help you, but of course, you would hear her talked about it over and over, which younger ones would consider as 'sumbat'. She would make you feel how less achiever you are since you can't race through her series of medals and recognitions. And  when you make mistakes, she is the first one to scold you about it.

Well those are kind of facts. Young ones should admit these. Big SIS are less appreciated in most families, probably most hated. But people never realise how lucky a person can be if he or she had an older sister. They overlooked the fact that Big SIS are like that because most of them pursue the best out of their brothers and sisters. They make taray everyday to make you realise that what you are doing is not acceptable. They seized to achieve everything to inspire you that nothing is impossible through hard work. She makes you value rest and sleep because she knew you would need those in the future. She chose to be frugal with resources because she knew how hard it is without it. She keeps her nose in everything you do because she does not want you to do the same mistake that either of you made before. She does not make sumbat though it sounds like that, it was just firm reminder for you to learn. She would never leave you until you learn your lesson and start changing.

All Big SIS just does that: Tough Love. Yes, they love their siblings, even in their own tough and firm ways. Because they had felt first the hardships in life and they do not have enough time to sugar coat the facts for their younger siblings. 

But like any other human, they all have soft sides. They can be hurt and tired of the role they play. Unlike their younger brother and sister, they does not have an older sibling to cry on and lean on. They do not have an older sibling to turn to and defend them in times of hurting. So they need to be strong, not for themselves, but for their siblings.

That's how hard their role is and having it said, that's how we should appreciate them.

This goes out for those Eldest Sister who feels that same hatred from their own siblings with the praying that one day they would realise they are wrong and would appreciate you and heed your advices. Like I did with my only Ate., well, after all she is my ultimate Idol =D